Anything I let, really. What a cheesy answer, but I get lit up at colossal nature and a blade of grass. Orgasmic sex to an intentional brush of the hand. Seeing others light up is the most often thing that lights me up, but I notice more and more its my desire to light up that leads to lit up!

Well, you are asking an ex-smoker so ... yes. However, when quitting is rooted in resignation, or losing out is different than when it comes from the power of surrender, with a re-direct into what serves. So yes, with the intention of creation.

That the ego is designed to support survival, so it will continue to pop up no matter what. The ego popping up doesn’t mean it chooses, but signifies my relationship to it had better be active and as healthy as possible so I can glean the value presented. If my ego has been activated then my survival - no matter how ridiculous it seems - has been “threatened." This is one of those lessons that as soon as I think “I got it!” a new level of learning will show up. Therefore, I am confident in I only “got it” at this current level, but check in next week!

I am a disciple of all spiritual contexts. I was raised in a devout Catholic household, and I rebelled. It was fascinating that once I rebelled, or denounced, really, I felt coldness... not from around me, but coming from my own heart. When I am not connected to what is greater than us I am not connected to me. Being without a divine worship practice diminished my connection with me. I began to study other religions, and it became a life’s passion. I have been in and at many cathedrals/temples/mosques/altars, and have found they all get something right. They all seem to fall down in the same place as well, believing they are the “right” one! Demystifying the religions opens up the clarity of beyond knowing, and now I feel at home in most religious worships because they are not the path to the divine - I am - and I can use most any spiritual practice to get “there”.

Not a lot of people would guess how often I feel fragile. I tend to use even that to create with so the transition is seldom witnessed; but after a recent car accident, I needed to be taken care of; even my beloved partner didn’t realize the tenderness and fear that was running through me.

Parents’ sobriety, childhood molestation, 1st kid to get job outside Dad's business, quitting college then going to Atlantic City and being a cocktail waitress, deciding to be a hairstylist, buying a salon, meeting Peter Tork & moving to LA, separating from PT, Mom's cancer, MITT experience, Grace, letting Jay go and Jay coming back, joining Boldy Embody Life.

My ability to connect to others. That has led to the best moments in my life and the greatest accomplishments. One example: My mother tells the story of her sobriety starting with the moment she “knew” she had a problem (not the moment she got sober, the moment that there was no possibility of any other truth that then led to sobriety) was with me. At the age of 12, I went to her room with a bottle of Crown Royal with the perspective of a pubescent girl... I asked her to choose. According to Mom, it went something like: “I love you but if you are going to kill yourself can you do it before you take Dad and all of us out too.” That chick had balls. Somehow, in my depth of despair, fear, and all of the unknown, I was able to convey enough love that she heard me. I am proud of that. I am proud of all the gifts my ability to connect with others brings.

”Big” with Tom Hanks is continually at #1. That lighthearted look at how the number of years do not guarantee the amount of wisdom is so important, and why not be able to laugh out loud while we learn! And the reminder of what I value - look at life from a kids perspective: a lot of it is just silly! One is never too old for silly string.

Unicorns say: “I want what she’s got!"

Hahahaha so GREAT! In a lot of ways they are already there, their ability to not take things personally, to constantly be in a new moment because they don’t have attachment, and because they can reach body parts we can't! And not all of them have easy lives, but they don’t wonder if it’s because they are not enough! I do believe that when any type of being (human or otherwise) energies leave this plane they are part of what is greater than us, so yes.

Ahhhh, this question stimulates so much gratitude because the list is endless! Scholastically: multiple brilliant humble servants in the Erie, Pennsylvania parochial school system. They prepared my mind and my heart in many ways, especially the ones that instilled the desire to learn! There are various college professors, the semesters I went post high school, and the various courses I have taken over the years. Michael Strasner and Chris Lee were relentless sculptors to my facilitator skills, including when I graduated their Master Leadership PhD program . Krista Petty Raimer has been brave enough to mentor my eruptions into masterpiece-ery for over 6 years, and I am also a graduate of her Elevate coaching and facilitation program. Sylvia Badasci and Margo Majdi have been influential in my development as well. Life has been a vigilant playground for learning by having me be her willing student. Also all of the children in my life, I think it's important enough to note that I am in constant learning from these young beings in their most natural state, and kids do that unapologetically (sometimes for too short a time) in a way that highlights the distinction of “who I am” vs “who I have become.”

First, pay attention to how the world feels loved. The touches, the words, the gestures that create intimacy, love and pleasure. It’s only ‘making love” if it's loving and connected! Next, make sure the lubrication of joy is present, en-joy the serious or acrobatic moments. Always add joy! Give myself wholeheartedly, bodily, and soulfully to the entire process from seduction to invitation to forePLAY to exploration to climax to the gentle coming back down. If I am fully in the moment, then the world captivates my love and attention, my intention, and I embrace seeing and feeling what is there. Sometimes, it is a crashing crescendo on an exotic beach. Sometimes, it's a hilarious “Ow! You’re on my hair!” Sometimes, it is somewhere in between, but every encounter is valuable, and has the possibility of love.

AHHH I love this one because you could ask me every day! Today is: when I get defensive there is a hole in my de-fence! AKA somewhere there is a boundary of mine that is being threatened so I defend. If I am willing to take a look it may not even be a boundary that I want, or that’s worth having. This could free up a good quantity of my energy, and put that towards building vs defending. Yummy!

I DO! Whoever we are, however much “work” we have done, there is always something that we cannot see from the inside lens that an outside lens can provide. My coach is a friend/college/sister/guide who knows me well and provides that safe place for me to look deep and see where my actions and intention are (or aren’t) aligned and offer it to me in a way that provides choice.

Easily, I am most proud of the relationships I have in my life. Developing my emotional agility to meet others in a way that gives them the space to be the unique gift they are and relating to them to create strong bonds.

I think one of the most common breakdowns with humans is confusing success and fulfillment. I can achieve X, Y or Z and not have my heart and soul filled. For a full-filling life requires a continual tending to what and why it matters! I had a client who realized that the income/money goal wasn’t fulfilling, and the earning was grinding. The awareness for them was the money was more important than anything they could do with it. Once that was brought to light the possibility that the number represented changed the number and the fulfillment!

Deepening love with Jay, who I am with him, and who he becomes with me. Earning money with my gifts. Ego fracturing that frees up psychic energy for other things. Thinking less of what “they” think and asking more about what I know. Trusting I know what I need, and I know when not to trust me.

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